Anyway, although this guy continued to invest a lot of effort for us to connect online or with phone calls, that was it. Then he started texting later and later. This can seem innocent enough if you truly live different schedules, but I think there’s an element of lost respect and expectations when you begin texting someone after midnight asking what they are up to or if they awake. This was warning flag #1.5. (The .5 warning flag comes from the high-level of attention he was paying me initially.)

• Belgium Lovers

Guy #4 randomly IM’d me and we began talking again. He began IM’ing me every day along with sending texts and calling me. Again, I was flattered at first and then I wondered what the urgency was. I just broke up with my boyfriend so I didn’t want to jump into anything right away and wanted to take things slow. Oddly, given all this “attention”, he never asked me to go out other than an initial invite to go to his place for dinner which he would cook. I think dinner is an intimate gesture and at the time I didn’t feel comfortable with going to his place. Dinner leads to drinking a glass of wine which leads to sitting on the couch talking which leads to kissing which leads to …

• Belgian Dominators

I still have a long way to go in terms of dating, but I am seeing progress and the application of lessons learned!!! Remember Guy #4 from one of my earlier posts this month? Yeah, well he is still a flake. I don’t think a guy has to call, text or IM a girl every day. In all honesty, while flattering, it’s a bit too much –but that’s a new and separate lessoned learned. I do think that when you make this a pattern and suddenly become sporadic, the person is distracted or not interested. Perhaps both. That’s what has happened here.

• Belgian Sugar Daddy

In an earlier conversation I mentioned to him that flakiness is not something I accept and I think it just makes a person appear unreliable and immature. He agreed and said he knew he can be flakey at times. So while he is aware he can be flakey, he is either unaware or uses flakey behavior either to avoid awkward situations. The reason isn’t really important. The fact that I recognize his flakiness and am saying I deserve better is HUGE!!!! I’m not into casual relationships or friends with benefits. I don’t have a crazy biological clock or an urge to get married. I simply want a real relationship without immature behaviors – mine or his. I’m not going to compromise myself because I know what I am asking isn’t too much or hard – and I deserve it.

• Belgian Black Love

After a pretty intense and personal conversation, where he revealed a lot of past personal hurt, the tone of our texts changed and his calls were non-existent. I decided it was better to call whatever this was between us off than end with one disliking the other. After expressing my concerns, he expressed his continued interested in me and said we would connect during the next work day. There was no IM, text or call. Warning flag #2.5 … no need to go to #3.

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